Reflection is widely considered a critical process for increasing self-awareness, and a catalyst for growth. Yet few of us are taught how to reflect, and this is why some of us will fall into the trap of reliving vs. reflecting. Both are backward-looking, but one adds in a crucial ingredient for true growth: distance. Reliving is replaying an experience by stepping fully into it.  What this means is that we re-experience the emotions and thought patterns associated with an ev

I am unabashedly a reformed chronic job hopper. I have quit more jobs than I can count on two hands. While I can weave it into a narrative that shuts down any prospective employers' alarm bells, here's the cold, bitter truth: I used to quit jobs because I thought that the job was the problem. More specifically, I blamed bosses, organizations, commutes, and even annoying colleagues. If I could just get a different job, with a different boss, in a different company, with better